Effing nightmare.
I watched “Don’t Worry Darling” before bed last night, big mistake, big…huge (name that movie).
Ok, so if you haven’t seen it and have only heard the hype that it’s about women’s empowerment focusing on the female orgasm. Um, no. It’s not. While yes, that does happen a few times and it’s nice to see on the big screen, that women deserve pleasure too, this was a fecking dystopian nightmare that doesn’t feel so dystopian.
I hadn’t read the book, ‘Handmaid’s Tale’, but I sure did watch the show. The entire series makes me hyperventilate similar to the feeling that DWD gave me last night. Holy schnikes. Ok, so I felt my feels and sat with it - why did it traumatize me so much?
It hit me, as with HT, we’re not so far from the reality of a DWD situation being real - that’s scary as all hell. I’m starting to breathe faster now, again. As they state often in HT, it doesn’t happen all at once, just slowly but surely one by one, rights are removed until the women are forced to Gilead to be separated into worth pillars based on fertility.
Many will say, come on, we’re nowhere near that…oh yea? Books are being banned, body autonomy is being stripped, birth control for women is in question, husbands sign off on a woman getting her tubes tied - need I say more?
If you’re not a woman, and these are not in question, it’s not so real but for me, I get pretty wild, pretty quickly about the thought of my husband needing to sign off on any of my basic needs for MY body. I literally can’t.
“Don’t Worry Darling” was the culmination of this, a man stripped his wife of her life completely so that she could succumb to a virtual reality in which they were finally “happy”. This is literally my worst fear in life right now. How would we know if we were forced into a DWD situation? One would assume we would know it right? Well, while they don’t describe “how” he did it in the movie, I’m assuming that some sort of a drugging situation took place to get her all hooked up to the equipment and into the virtual world.
Be hyper vigilant, switch off auto pilot - look around, be extremely aware of your reality and what is happening. For me, I look around and I’m concerned for the world that I see which has led me to pivot into coaching. I’ll be damned if I am a bystander to women of this world continue to be stripped of their authenticity and gaslit into a world that they think they know. I vehemently unsubscribe. The scariest part of this movie is that it’s completely psychological - a gaslighting nightmare. Watch it, but be warned that it’s EXTREMELY triggering.
In the meantime, I’ll be sleeping with one eye open and continue to speak my truth to make sure I’m not being swept away to Victory (the virtual community in DWD). Fuck that, boy bye.
*sidebar - I was convinced that this was happening to me in January this year when I was in Arizona visiting a friend. After a few cocktails, we got a ride share service and the man who picked us up had full military garb on, with an earpiece (like the ones in HT), and a gun on the front seat. I was beside myself, I said this is it, here we go. I was in tears.
Please help me stop the madness, I feel like some days I’m screaming at the top of my lungs and no one is listening, just watching decisions being made about us and for us as the world just looks on. Unsubscribe, join me, whatever you need to do to make sure that we don’t reach a point of no return.
Stressed.
