Healing Is Lonely.
Hey there, I’ve seen so many memes lately about how no one tells you how lonely healing is…so here I am.
I updated my “my why” section today and realized that it’s going to inevitably cause some feels out there. I also know that that is not mine to heal, that is whosever reads it and is activated by it. It’s my truth and that’s that.
I used to have a saying that made its way into 2023 that was “own your intention, and your impact” - this was my way of saying, don’t be an asshole and if you hurt someone’s feelings, then own it.
The thing with this saying is, yes AND…often times if the person opposite of you is triggered or activated, that is not yours to heal. If you are speaking truth, then that’s that and perhaps part of their healing journey is to become activated by you, to be able to move through and heal whatever it is themselves.
The biggest learning I’ve had this year is that I am not responsible for anyone else’s healing and if my journey activates you, that’s yours not mine.
Here’s the rub - we, especially women, have been treated to be kind, polite, and to never make anyone uncomfortable or upset. Be the peacemaker, the fixer, the healer.
Ok, but also, why have women been in charge of this while men get to act like and say literally anything they want without repercussion - that’s just him, he’s like that with everyone, boys will be boys.
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The further I get into my healing and spiritual path, the more I realize just how much I had taken on as my own - from everyone around me. This has led me to lovingly release MANY people from my life over the past year. Yes my husband is here and giving me space to feel through my truth and his bottom line expectation is for me to be myself and to be a good partner - period. He’s firmly planted in who he is and what we have - almost 9 years ago, our souls got married and made a choice to be each other’s greatest teacher in this life. And so it is.
It’s not easy every day for us while we navigate this journey but we’re in this.
The ones who have fallen away benefitted from my lack of boundaries and my dire need to make them comfortable. That’s why I was always such a good friend. I still am, but I am very discerning about whom I give my energy to. I’m only interested in being surrounded by those who lift me up, without hesitation or agenda or needing my reassurance to soothe their egos. I don’t do that anymore, I’m aligned with soul centric individuals who genuinely care about healing and becoming the highest version of themselves.
The rest, well, it’s not for me to decide nor judge…they’re on their own timeline and I’m on mine.
I’m on the forefront of raising the vibration of humanity, so - with love, light, and sacred rage…healing is lonely, and gorgeous… you will find your tribe. Trust yourself and the journey.
