Photoshoot today.

Second day of my website being live feels pretty special, it’s like an extension of myself - something that is finally all my own…moment of gratitude.

Happy Thursday queens, how is your heart doing today? Mine is already lighter, I was NOT ok yesterday as I unfortunately sometimes (ok often) stew as the patriarchy dictates our daily lives. I’m in this space that I’m questioning everything around me, which is awesome, but can also make my daily life a bit of a challenge b/c when anyone shares an expectation of me, I instantly respond with “who says?”

I get stuck in this swirl of - I’m going to be me, unapologetically, but that also makes me hard to get along with some days when I’m super angsty against the fake requirements that have been set upon me. So, I approach myself and others with grace and patience - or try to. If I’m constantly enraged, then people won’t hear my message. I’m happy to say the enraged feminist days are fewer and I proactively opt into or out of conversations that no longer serve me.

So what’s the answer? I think to be able to help educate and be the change agent that I am, I must find balance between truth telling and healing - try to meet people where they are. That may look like not reacting in the moment, rather finding a better or more relevant time to share my personal thoughts on the world in general so that the person doesn’t feel attacked, because, egos.

My advice is to never compromise yourself to please someone else, but also try to lead with curiosity to understand where the bias/misogyny what have you comes from. This approach helps everyone to be good humans, or a step forward anyway.

Oh! And with a website comes new photos of yourself, apparently…so I’m leaning all the way in and doing what makes me feel ALIVE - you won’t see pics of me sitting at a computer (no offense to anyone), but this is me and I love me. When’s the last time you did something that made you think, “I love me!” ???